Talk 12: On Parents’ Roles (Part 2)

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Talk Show held on 12th/12/2020 on Busoga One 90.6Fm

Moderator: Balondemu Simon

Panelist 1: Nabirye Monica (Mayuge District District)

Panelist 2: Ndaaye Mutwalibi (Bugiiri District District)

 Panelist 3: Kyakulaga Paul (Kaliro District District)

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Moderator:

I take this opportunity to welcome you to this programme that runs every week on Saturday. We are continuing to look at the learning of the children within Busoga region. Iam your humble servant Balondemu Simon. I work hand in hand with Twaweza East Africa and Elevate the partners for Education. You are very much aware that every Saturday starting from 12:00noon to 1:00pm we are here to share ideas about the learning of our children. 

We have been looking at the different responsibilities and roles played by different people like the parents, teachers, and pupils in improving education. Ladies and gentlemen who are tuned in, I would like to inform you that we have been sharing a number of ideas about the children’s learning from the time when school were closed. Therefore, we have a belief that by God’s grace, all schools shall be opened by the beginning of next year. As usual, I do not run this program alone but hold it with different invitees in the studios. 

In the studios, I have one lady and two gentlemen. Let me take this opportunity to welcome them here. Without wasting time, allow me begin with the lady as she introduces herself to you.

Panellist 1:

My name Nabirye Monica from Mayuge district, Maina Village.

Moderator:

You are most welcome and thank you for coming.

Panellist 2:

My name is Ndaaye Mutwalibi from Bugweri district, Ibaako parish, Ibaako village.

Moderator:

You are most welcome Mr. Mutwalibi. Hope the people of Ibaako are tuned in. Greetings to the people of Bugweri.

Panellist 3:

My name is Kyakulaga Paul. I’m a resident of Nabigwali LC 1 and am the LC 1 chairperson of that place. My parish is called Kabuleeta, Bumanya sub county and Kaliro district.

Moderator:

Mr. Kyakulaga Paul the chairperson LC 1 Nabigwali village, you are most welcome.

Our dear listeners together with our visitors in the studio, allow me to briefly tell you about what we have been discussing in the previous talk shows. In this program, we have been looking at the different roles and responsibilities played by the key stake holders. These include the teachers, parents, head teachers, school management committees, the pupils and the foundation bodies. Last week, we were here with Miss Nakirya Brenda and she had gotten panellists from different areas. There was Mrs. Amoiti rose, the head teacher Busesa mixed primary school. There was also the chairperson school management committee Bulanga primary school and Mr. Lukolobe john the head teacher of Buluguyi primary school, Bugiiri district. They were discussing about the roles of the head of schools and other key stake holders.

Today, we are going to look at the roles and responsibilities of parents and village leaders towards the learning of our children. 

Allow me to begin with Mr. Mutwalibi from Busesa. We all didn’t plan for the closure of schools and this has so far taken nine consecutive months. But as parents, we are left with a very big task of taking care of the children as well as engaging them in learning during this period. All responsibilities are now landing on the shoulders of the parents.  

During this period, we have found out from the different talk shows that the teachers are just doing supervision and monitoring in the homes to see the effectiveness of the parents’ work.

Mr. Ndaaye, are you aware that you are playing a very big role in improving the learning of the children during this period?

Panellist 2:

Yes, I’m aware.

Moderator:

Why do you agree with that statement?

Panellist 2:

I agree because the outbreak of COVID 19 has brought about the overall responsibility towards the children by the parents. However, the government is assisting us especially by providing learning materials and organising radio sessions.  I therefore have to organise with the children very early in the morning like at around 6:00am to go for garden work such that we come back a bit earlier and prepare for the radio learning sessions. I have to tell my child who is in primary six to assist those in the lower primary and those in senior one to assist the one in primary six. We are also staying with their aunt who helps them to go through the learning materials since she is somehow educated.

Moderator:

By doing all this, you are trying to fulfil your responsibilities as a father. The children are also helping each other in learning. Which other responsibilities do you play directly in improving the learning of the children?

 

Panellist 2:

I’m a farmer and I did not get chance to be educated. That is why I always encourage my children to learn.

Moderator:

According to your observation, do you see that your children have the desire to learn?

Panellist 2:

Yes, I see that my children have a burning desire to learn especially the grownups.  I only have a big task over the young ones. I always tell them that I did not get chance to study but, they are there to assist me in reading and writing. I do not want them to miss what I missed.

Moderator:

In consideration of all that, what have you planned in improving the learning of your children.

Panellist 2:

Since am a farmer, am just praying that my harvests be good such that I can be able to get money to sustain my children in schools. 

Moderator:

Are you undertaking collective efforts with the mother in helping the children?

Panellist 2:

I strongly believe that without their mother, I cannot do anything alone. We have a mutual understanding with their mother.

Moderator:

Apart from that, how are you planning to see that the children are highly involved in learning during this period such that when schools resume, all the children report back to school.

Panellist 2:

My plan is to look for money such that when schools resume, my children will have the necessary requirements like books, pens and pencils.

Moderator: 

Briefly tell us how you are going to look for that money.

Panellist 2:

I told you that am a farmer and I cultivate maize, rice and cassava. Those are my main sources of income. I cultivated all that and I have them in stores.

Moderator:

So, do you save after cultivation?

 

Panellist 2:

I keep my produce in stores and sell off when prices hike. When the price of cassava is down, I resort to selling rice and when rice is down, I resort to maize.

Moderator:

You are such a farmer who cultivates all sorts of food crops that can be sold to earn you income such that you can provide requirements to your children.

Panellist 2:

Yes, am that type of farmer.

Moderator:

That is really good, thank you! Mr. Ndaaye.

Miss Monica, you are very silent. This is a parent from Maina Village. We found out that some parents are un able to take care of their children especially at this time when schools are closed. 

We also found out that these children have joined bad peer groups and within the previous three weeks of holding talk shows with other panellists, we identified that there should be a very good relationship between the parents and the children so as to bring out the best in them and understand their main challenges.

Miss Nabirye Monica, do you believe that this relationship can help in improving the discipline of the children. If so, how are going to do this?

Panellist 1:

Thank moderator. I believe that it is really good. All we have to do is to have a mutual understanding as parents in exercising this. We also need to put God first.

Moderator:

You did not answer my first question which says that; do agree with creating a good relationship with the children and how are you going to do it?

Panellist 2:

I have to talk my child especially the girl child and tell them of how the world has to move. I have to remind them of the importance of education because if someone is learnt, he/she is respected and valued in the community. A learnt person fits in all the domains.

Moderator:

Ok, Miss Monica is telling us about improving the disciplines of the children. We found out that the disciplines of the children are deteriorating especially during this period. As a female parent, what strategies have you laid down in involving the male parents in imparting discipline to the children?

Panellist 1:

All I can request the male parents is to collaborate with their spouses. This is because when the parents have a mutual understanding in the home, they can be able to impart discipline in their children.

I also encourage the parents to groom their children in a religious conviction. When a child is religious, he/she cannot disrespect the parents unlike the un religious ones who do not respect anyone.

I also call upon the male parents who have forgotten of their responsibilities and leave the work of grooming children to the ladies to remember their role because we are both responsible for these children. 

Moderator:

What do you tell the listeners who are tuned in?

Panellist 1:

I call upon all the parents to have a mutual understanding so as to bring up better children who are guided and disciplined. This will help us to educate our children because this very vital in their future as all fields of work requires people who are educated and professional.

Moderator:

We found out that many schools have always had a very big challenge that many parents have not been responding to their calls especially to meetings to discuss issues concerning the learning of children. They send other people who are not responsible for their children like boda – boda men. 

Moderator:

How important is it to the parents in having a good relationship with the teachers?

Panellist 1:

It is really important for the parents to attend meetings held in schools. This helps us to find out the learning capacities of our children while at school. You can easily create a relationship with the teacher so as to assist your child in his/her weak areas. Parents should therefore attend the meetings in person to build this relationship.

Moderator:

As for you personally, what plans are you looking forward to having a good relationship with the teachers especially when schools resume.

Panellist 1:

The biggest strategy am laying is that; when schools resume, I will have to attend the meetings in person when am called upon. This will help me to understand what is addressed in the meetings for the betterment of my child’s learning. 

While at home, I will have to talk to my child especially in case of any mistakes done by the child. If the child fails, I will have to collaborate with the teachers so as to fight that challenge.

Moderator:

I also strongly believe that collaboration with the teachers greatly helps in improving the discipline of the children. We have always witnessed it that when the parents are taking full control over the children, their children’s discipline have totally gone down. This call for the teachers’ much effort when schools resume especially at putting right these children.

Throw more light about that issue. I continue to emphasize that the parents should stop avoiding the teachers and approach them in person. I also encourage the parents to provide food for children while at school. It is really hard for them to stay hungry from morning up to evening.

Moderator:

Schools are emphasising this issue of feeding the children while at school. It’s very important for the learning process to move on smoothly. Let me hope that this is what you are practising in Maina primary school.

Panellist 1:

Yeah it is what we are doing at our school.

Moderator:

Ladies and gentlemen, allow me to proceed and I want to talk to one gentleman in the studios. He is called Mr. Kyakulaga Paul, the LC 1 chairman of Nabigwali village in Bumanya sub county.

Mr. Paul, thank you for coming all the way from Bumanya. I would like you to tell the listeners of your roles and responsibilities as an LC 1 chairperson in improving the learning of the children in Nabigwali village.

Panellist 3:

Thank you very much moderator and all voices going through Busoga one 90.6 FM. As village leaders, we are challenged by the children misbehaving. We have left the children with a lot of freedom that they do not sit and concentrate on learning. They are more engaged in playing and disco sounds that move around the villages. I would like to appreciate the government for the efforts they have made to support us during this COVID 19 period.

Moderator:

As an LC 1 chairperson what roles do you play in your village?

Panellist 3:

For I inform all the children that learning is very vital. I also remind the parents to organise their children and listen to the radio sessions arranged at around 9:30am. Since the government introduced some learning materials, I distributed them and requested the teachers to assist some of the children in interpreting them. 

Moderator:

Mr. Kyakulaga, which key roles and key strategies are you putting forward as an LC committee to see that you improve learning in Nabigwali village.

Panellist 3:

Nabigwali is a very good village and am proud to say that it is one of the most educated village in Bumanya sub county. We have educated our children and we have over 42 degree holders in that village. We therefore create a very good example to the rest of the children and remind them that we need to hold very big graduation ceremonies for them.

 

Moderator:

To add on that Mr Kyakulaga, we have spent over 9months when the children are in the villages except for the candidates who have resumed school. What strategies have you laid in helping the children to learn during this period.

Panellist 3:

The best strategy we have laid is to invite all the LCs in Kasuuleta parish to come and discuss on how best we can assist the children. This is because it is not only Nabigwali that needs to educate the children but also Kasuuleta parish as a whole.

Moderator:

How many villages does Kasuuleta parish have?

Panellist 3:

Kasuuleta parish has eight villages.

Moderator:

So, all these eight LCs come together? That is really good. So what do you discuss whenever you come together?

Panellist 3:

We share ideas on to keep the children without them misbehaving. Here, we encourage the parents not send the children at late hours. When children move out at late hours, they admire the chapattis in the trading centres which may tempt them leading to early marriages especially the girls.

Moderator:

When you go back to the villages, do you implement this?

Panellist 3:

Yes, when we go back to the villages, we implement these strategies and carry out evaluation every after two weeks. I ask them of what they do while in the villages. We also move out to the villages to find out whether this was done.

Moderator:

You really deserve a hand clap. Thank you very much Mr. Kyakulaga Paul the LC 1 from Nabigwali. 

Ladies and gentlemen, allow me to go for a short break and when we come back we shall continue sharing about the roles and responsibilities of a parent. I will be reading for you the phone numbers. To continue sharing with us, you can air your views on Facebook Elevate the partners for education and twitter @ elevate.ed.ug. 

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 Let us continue sharing. Mr. chairman, we were still continuing to share about the roles and responsibilities of parents as well as village leaders.

Panellist 3:

For I would like to ask my fellow panellists a question because they are from different areas. The lady has talked about the development of self-esteem in the children when they are learnt. However, the children of today are good at absenting themselves especially when you send them somewhere. What role are you doing are you doing as female parents to see that the children come back in time.

Moderator:

Madam Monica, the question comes to you, handle it in a few seconds.

Panellist 1:

All I have to do is to bring up the child in right way. Where need be, I have to punish the child and guide him/her on what to do.

Moderator:

Ok, let’s hear from someone on the line.

Caller 1:

This is Dhikusoka peter from Kidera, Buyende district. I would like to appreciate that chairman LC1 because he is really visionary and fit for being an LC 3 chairperson. I love his attitude and wish that all LCs carry on that.

Moderator:

As a parent, what roles are you playing in your home?

Caller 1:

I have to take my full responsibility to see that the children engage in learning. I believe that education is the key to success and any of children who diverts away from this is not fit to be my child. Their mother is also taking part in helping me to educate them.

Moderator:

You are therefore working hand with the mother to improving the learning of the children.

Caller 1:

Yes, sir.

Moderator:

That is very good and you deserve a hand clap.

Let’s hear from another caller on the line.

Caller 2:

My name is Bakaki Moses

 

Caller 3:

My name is Kavuma Ibrahim from Ntinkalu. I would like to appreciate the words of that chairman LC1 and radio Busoga one at large that we are really privileged to have heard such words from this radio. That is very inspiring and educative to the rest of the chairpersons all over. This will help us groom better and disciplined children, and a better Uganda in the future.

Moderator:

Thank you for encouraging the people and greet all the people of Ntinkalu.

Let’s hear from the one on the line.

Caller 4:

My name is Asuman Mayanja from Bukaboli, I want to the chairman for his wonderful speech. Let other chairpersons take an example of whatever he has talked about. This will help us to improve the discipline of our children who respects their parents and other people.

Moderator:

Mr Ndaaye you had wanted to say something. What do you say about the roles and responsibilities of the parents?

 Panellist 2:

All I had wanted to say is that; on the issue of the children, we need to learn new ways and copy from others how to handle them. We need to show love to the children and also show them the cruel part of us. We need to balance the two that when a child is going astray, we have to get tougher and when he/she is accepting to learn, to show them love, create them ample time for resting and many others.

Moderator:

Thank you Mr. Mugaya, let’s hear from the person on the line.

Caller 5:

My name is Abdul Magidu. Some things are very challenging that such great chairpersons are from very distant places and we can’t collaborate with them. That is really good Mr. chairman if all that you have talked about is put into practise.

Moderator:

Mr. Magidu, with such chairpersons, what roles do you play in improving the learning of the children?

Caller 5:

The work that the chairperson does is very crucial that he mobilises the parents to support their children in learning. However, most chairpersons do not take it as an issue in their villages.

Moderator:

Mobilise the LCs in your locality. 

Caller 5:

I call upon the LCs who are tuned in to copy from what that chairman is doing. I also call upon the members to assist the children who come up and continue with learning. 

Moderator:

Mrs. Nabirye Monica, what do say about that issue?

Panellist 1:

On that issue, I’m just praying that all parents collaborate and support the children to a proper education standard. This can be by supporting them with the necessary requirements.

Moderator:

Ok, let me attend to the person on the line.

Chairman, many people have appreciated you. Mobilise them to continue supporting the children.

Panellist 3:

It really gratifying to mobilise people and they get positive out comes out of it. I encourage the people of this nation not to just look at the children but guide them on what to do. When you guide them and show them the future they remain foreseen of a better future.

Moderator:

Thank you Mr Paul Kyakulaga. 

Caller 6

My name is Hassad from Wandago.

Moderator:

He was unable to talk to us and just told us of his names.

I send greetings to my elder brother Balondemu Fred in Naminya.

Caller 7:

My name is Munyore James from Buvuma district. I’m very glad to talk to you for the first time. I would like to the chairperson and the recent speakers they have had great words.

Moderator:

What role do you play on the village committee in Buvuma district?

Caller 7:

I’m the chairman NRM movement on that village. Thank you for educating the nation and that is a very wonderful program.

Caller 8:

My name is Gwabi Tito from Namutumba. I would like to thank the chairman for the good words he has spoken. If you have misunderstandings with your wife, how possible can you be able to bring up and guide the children.

Moderator:

To whom does that question go?

Caller 8:

That question goes to the lady in the studios.

Moderator:

Let us allow her to answer that question. Madam Nabirye, if you have misunderstandings with the husband at home, how do you go about that.

Panellist 1:

A home that comprises of both wise parents cannot move smoothly. There should be one who is wise and one who is the reverse of that. One of the parents should be calm for the smooth learning of the home.

Moderator:

Mr Ndaaye what do you say about that issue?

Panellist 2:

We need to be calm in our families as a husband and wife. In cases where one of the partners is too harsh, reach out to his/her friends who can talk to him/her. If that person is understanding, he/she will have to change.

Moderator:

When there is mutual understanding between the parents, it is very easy to mentor the children in a proper way.

Mr. Ndaaye give your last remarks.

Panellist 2:

I call upon all parents to collaborate as a mother and a father so as to prepare our children for our later stages of life. When need these children in our later stages.

Moderator:

Mr. Ndaaye, send regards to two people.

Panellist 2:

I greet the people of Busesa and Bugweri District at large. I also greet my elder brother Harid from Butende.

Moderator:

Madam Nabirye, give your last remarks and greet two people.

Panellist 1:

I call upon all the parents both male and female to work hand in hand. Whenever there are misunderstandings in the home, the children are unable to get the basic needs. 

I greet the head mistress of Maina primary school and the entire staff. I also greet all the people of Maina Village.

Moderator:

Mr chairman, everyone has liked your words and when we get chance, we will have to invite you back to share with the nation.

Give your last remarks and send regards to two people.

Panellist 3:

Thank you very much moderator. I would like to send greetings to all leaders out there. All I have to tell you is that whenever you have a developmental idea, share it with others for consultation for a better leadership. We need a strong leadership that prevails well. All leaders of Bumanya and Kasuuleta should have a collective effort for a better leadership in our community.

I would like to send regards to my wife Mrs. Kyakulaga Monica together with our children. I reached safely at our lovely radio Busoga one 90.6 FM. I also greet all the people of Nabigwali village especially my brothers Diima, William and many others.

Moderator:

I would like to appreciate the panellists in the studios for whatever you have shared with us. Mr Ndaaye has told us that he is a farmer who is going to sell off his produce so as to get the necessary requirements for his children. Madam Nabirye has called upon all parents to work together so as to mentor the children and support them in education. Thank you Madam Monica Mr chairman has told us that he has been so responsible at distributing the learning materials which were entrusted to him. The leaders have also been instrumental at holding joint meetings so as to come up with great ideas that build the community of Bumanya. 

I would like to thank you for tuning Busoga one FM, those who were able to call and share with us and in a special way I want to thank Twaweza East Africa, our partners for always supporting us. Thank you very much for tuning Busoga one 90.6 FM. To share more with us about the learning of children, you can call on numbers 0782933243.

Keep away from COVID 19 as the year ends, we pray that next year resumes when we are safe and COVID free. I would like to inform you that our talk shows for this year will be ending here and we hope to be back again in January 2021.

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