Talk 10: On Parents’ Roles (Part 1)

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Talk Show Held on 28th/11/2020 on Busoga 1 Fm

Moderator: Balondemu Simon

Panelist 1: Samanya David (Bugiiri District)

Panelist 2: Namugabo Aisha (Kaliro District)

 Panelist 3: Muwereza Geoffrey (Mayuge District)

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Moderator:

It is very true that the wisdom to improve learning lies within us. Our dear ones we welcome you to this wonderful program. Today, we have come in anew style and I’m your humble servant Balondemu Simon. I work with Elevate the partners for education. 

You are warmly welcome to this program.

Every Saturday, we conduct this program from 12:00noon to 1:00pm on Busoga one 90.6 fm. I believe I’m worthy to sit in the studios today and I have moved with other three colleagues from different places since we give opportunity to people from different areas to come and share ideas here. I will request these visitors to introduce themselves to you in one minute each. Let me begin with the gentleman on my left.

Panellist 1:

Thank you! Moderator for welcoming us here in the studios of Busoga one. It is really a privilege to see that my voice reaches out to the people. My name is Samanya David, a parent from Bugiiri district, Namagonjo village and from Namagonjo school community. We are proud of Namagonjo primary school because it is a performing school and has greatly created a positive impact in uplifting the education standards of Bugiiri district. 

Moderator:

Alright let’s hear from the next person, the lady on my right. 

Panellist 2:

Thank you very much. I want to thank God for enabling me to reach the studios of Busoga one which I have always been hearing of. My name is Namugabo Aisha from Butongole village Kaliro district. I would like to appreciate Elevate for this program and Mr. Balondemu Simon for choosing me among all and giving me this opportunity to come and speak to my fellow parents.

Moderator:

Thank you Miss Namugabo Aisha from Butongole. Let the last person introduce himself and tell you of his responsibilities.  

 

Panellist 3:

Thank you very much our dear moderator for today. I would like to thank God who has kept us alive the people of Busoga and Uganda at large. My name is Muwereza Geoffrey a resident of Mayuge district, Maina Village and a reverend in the church which is a foundation body for Maina primary school.

Moderator:

You are most welcome our dear reverend. Ladies and gentlemen you have heard from our visitors in the studio. Today, we are going to discuss and share ideas. Last Saturday we were here with Miss Nakirya Brenda as they were discussing about the role of a teacher. There were three visitors that day and they were discussing of the role and responsibilities of teachers in improving the learning of the children especially when some have reported back to school and others are still at home. There was madam Namaganda Loy from Budondo primary school in Luuka district, Mr. Kiima Wilson from Bwonda Primary school in Mayuge district and Mr. Higenyi George from Busesa mixed primary school in Bugweri district. This school has a very big population and we commend the great work done by Miss Amoiti Rose the school head teacher.

 We noted down a few things that were discussed that day and found out that the biggest role of a teacher is to teach and edify a child. While the chairperson PTA told us that his role is to create a link between the parent, the teachers and the pupils themselves. He also told us that these school committees coordinate and attend village meetings to find out the strength and weaknesses of the school communities. They also monitor and supervise different school projects to see that the children achieve the best of what they have to while at school.

The teachers also told us they handle extra lessons in different subjects where the pupils find difficulty. They also create strong relationships between them and the parents and this has been so practical especially during this period when schools are closed. I will not exhaust all that was said that day but, that was a simple summary of it.

Ladies and gentlemen, allow me to introduce to you today’s topic on which we are going to discuss and share ideas. We are going to look at the roles and responsibilities of parents in the bid to improve on the learning of the children.

Mr. Samanya, tell us of your role and responsibility in improving the learning of your children especially during this period when most of the children are at home.

Panellist 1:

Thank you Mr. Simon. I will in the first place thank God that am here because it is very great in my life. I also thank the organisers of this program who plan and facilitate our coming to this place. We cannot exhaust the roles of parents because they are very many.

First and foremost, we stay with these children fulltime and we have to see that these children are health and smart. We have to take care of them such that they feel our presence as their parents.

Moderator:

Mr Muwereza, what is meant by the term “responsibility” in half a minute?

 

Panellist 3:

The term responsibility refers to the activities which you have to put into practice and what we think of doing for our children.

Moderator:

Let’s hear from the lady. What comes to your mind when we talk about responsibilities and roles?

Panellist 2:

Responsibility refers to what a parent is meant to do for our children especially during this period of COVID 19.

Moderator:

I would like to remind you that the parent’s responsibility is not only during this COVID 19 period.

Back to Mr Samanya, what is your responsibility over your children especially during this COVID 19 period towards the learning of the children.

Do you have some children who have reported back to school during this period?

Panellist 1: 

No, I don’t have one.

Panellist 1:

My responsibility is to take care of my children. We share responsibilities with my wife but my biggest role is to see that the children have something to eat. The situation has changed that ladies no longer look for what to eat from the gardens but, wait for the husbands to bring from the market.

All I have to do is to see that the need of the family is fulfilled like the basic needs of the family.

Moderator:

Mr Samanya, I would like us to emphasise on your responsibility towards the learning of the children especially during this COVID 19 period.

Panellist 1:

I will in the first place thank the government’s initiative to provide the pupils with some learning materials. My role is to see that the children learn and work on these learning materials even in my absence. I therefore leave instructions as I go for work that I need the learning materials worked on. These children will have to do that work bearing in mind that I will have to take a look at it.  

Moderator:

How has the fulltime stay of children at home affected your work during this COVID 19 period? What changes have been brought about? 

Panellist 1:

The fact that there was a change in the working time frame, there is no flexibility at work as it used to be. We therefore have to work in a minimal status quo so as to sustain yourself and the children.

 

Moderator:

I have learnt that Mr. Samanya has five children, three girls and two boys. Mr Samanya, which strategies have you laid to see that your children report back to school when schools resume?

Panellist 1:

I have some small income generating activities that am doing. I therefore look forward to acquiring some requirements for my children during this period. I save some of the money so as to be safe when schools resume.

I have also widened my working base since I have so many children that need to be catered for when schools resume. This will help me obtain some income which is enough for school fees.

Moderator:

Mrs Namugabo you have heard from Mr. Samanya. What is your responsibility during this period when the children are at home?

Panellist 2:

Thank you Mr Balondemu. I would like to thank the listeners who are tuned in. As apparent, I designed at time table for my children to follow which helps them to do the right thing at a right time. We make arrangements for different activities at different times. I’m from a Muslim family and we therefore begin with prayers in the morning, go for gardening like up to 10:00am, do some house chores and then resort to books after having lunch. 

Moderator:

How many children do you have?

Panellist 2:

I have eight children and some have already succeeded in their education.

Moderator:

Tell us about that.

Panellist 2:

 The first child has a diploma in nursing and the last borne is primary two.

Moderator:

 Tell us more about your responsibilities.

Panellist 2:

Following the time tale, every child is aware of what he/she is meant to do and at what time. While revising their books, I also have a belief from the English saying of; “eyes on hands off”. This helps me to watch their moves and supervise their work.

Moderator:

Do you practise that every week?

 

Panellist 2:

Yes, that is what I do and I believe even in my absence right now, they are doing what they have to with the help of the supervisor I left for them.

Moderator:

With that kind of supervision, which changes have you identified in these children?

Panellist 2:

I had been challenged before because the children were not used to staying with me fulltime. But, they have now adapted to the situation and every child is aware of what to do and at what time.

Moderator:

Regarding their education, what changes have you identified?

Panellist 2:

First of all, I would like to thank my head teacher for mobilising us especially in churches and mosques to see that children learn. He gave us the opportunity to pick the text books for the children to use while at home. My children have created a difference that they can now read these text books without my supervision. They can learn on their own.

Moderator:

What plan have you put forward to see the children back in schools when they reopen.

Panellist 2:

I have some programs which are income generating. I believe they will bring in some money so that I support my children when schools resume. I save a lot and also carry out extensive farming. Some of the crops are consumed and some is reserved for sale.

Moderator:

Madam Namugabo, what advise do you give to some other parents out there? 

Panellist 2:

I encourage my fellow parents to create a good relationship with the children so as to be able to guide them in a friendly manner. Some parents are very harsh towards their children and create a stressful environment for the children to stay at home.

Moderator:

We have not heard from our visitors in the studio. Mr. Muwereza Geoffrey is reverend from Maina primary school. As a religious leader at Maina primary school, what role do you play in that school.

Panellist 3:

As a religious leader, I find time and organise sessions to talk about the word of God with the pupils at school. We believe that the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. We therefore have a big role to inform the pupils and their parents about the benefits of education. I have confidence that many people accept us whenever we come up to talk about learning because we wear an amour of God.

As a foundation body of the school, the church has full authority to supervise the work of the school. We have to mind that the standard of the school is uplifted.

Moderator:

My immediate question is that as a foundation body of the school, what strategies have you laid to see that the children learn especially during this period.

Panellist 3:

I would like to inform you that during this period, we have not sat behind but, move around villages to preach the word of God and as well sensitize the people about education. We are aware that the children are at home and always tell the parents to continue guiding their children. We remind the parents of their responsibilities over their children especially during this period. Parents have a role to impart good disciplines into their children to groom them into better citizens. 

Moderator:

Do you have your children learning in these schools?

Panellist 3:

The fact is that we have our children in these schools because they are our own. We are lucky that the government has initiated a number of programs in primary schools. In Maina primary school, the government is planning to set up a nursery school in our school. Therefore, this school has a nursery department though the classes have not been set up. The nursery pupils are now taking their classes in the school church. This has been so important to the community that the nursery pupils have a good basis for primary education.

Moderator:

As religious leaders, which strategies have you laid to see that all children benefit when schools resume?

Panellist 3:

Mr Simon, I would like to inform you that as religious leaders, we have always communicated with the school head teachers to see that we lay strategies for the opening of schools.  We hold meetings with these head teachers and design mechanisms on how to keep schools on board. Right now the candidates have reported back to school and we encourage the head teacher to move around the villages and check on the pupils.
Moderator:

Are the head teachers there at school?

Panellist 3:

My head teacher, madam Wanyana Susan is always there at school and reports every day

Moderator:

Madam Aisha would like to add on something. Let’s hear from her.

 

Panellist 2:

The work of the religious leaders is really good but, they should also talk to the fathers of the children because they have really abandoned their responsibilities to the mothers alone. Most of the fathers leave homes for trading centres. The religious leaders should come up and address this issue to see that both parents join hands to groom better children.

Moderator:

Mr. Samanya, what do you say about this issue. 

Panellist 1:

Most mothers over power the fathers over the children and that’s why they are left to toil with them. The mothers give a lot of house chores to the children leaving there no time for them spend it with their fathers.

Moderator:

Ok remember that we are discussing about the roles of parents in improving the learning of children. I request we leave the blame game of mothers and fathers. So, what is your role as a father or mother? Mr Muwereza summarise in one minute and we go for a short break.

Panellist 3:

God is the head of the church and a father is the head of a family. I therefore request that the fathers should not forget their roles and responsibilities and take care of their families just as Christ takes care of the church.

Moderator:

Ladies and gentlemen as we go for break, I would like to inform you that we are discussing about the roles and responsibilities of a parent in improving the learning of the children. You can also listen to us via Facebook on Elevate the partners for education or twitter @twitter ed.ug. 

Let’s break out shortly and stay tuned.

Commercial break.

Moderator:

Our dear listeners I welcome you back from that short break. The wisdom to improve learning lies within us. Iam Simon Balondemu your servant from Elevate. Iam going to open up the calls so that you can share with us your views on numbers 0776999906 and Airtel on 0757906906, and for ladies on 0393216518.

Caller 1:

I’m Yosef kalidas from Buyende district. We really appreciate your services.

Caller 2:

I’m Musimami Steven from Buyende. As a parent I encourage my fellow parents to guide the children in learning and also provide for them some learning materials.

 

Moderator:

As a parent which responsibilities are you taking on at home? We earlier heard from one of the panellists that most of the fathers are not doing their responsibilities. What do you say about that?

Caller 2:

The challenge is with some careless mothers who don’t take proper care of the children. This takes away the morale of the father to assist the children. However, when the two parents collaborate, everything will move on smoothly.

Moderator:

Mr Muwereza, comment about that as areligious leader.

Panellist 3:

What is meant by being a head of the family involves taking a number of risks. All I can tell the parents is to endure with all family issues so as not to affect the child.

Moderator: 

Ok let’s hear from the person on the line.

Caller 3:

My name is Alamanzani Lubaale from Butende Bugweri. My responsibility is to provide school requirements to the child which we have gotten relieved from during this period. We therefore have a big role of finding bread for the mouth. The rest of the work can be done by the mothers like to take care of them and guide them.

Moderator:

But as per now which responsibilities are you taking to see that the children learn.

Caller 3:

Right now, we are waiting for the reopening of schools because most of the children lost the morale to learn. We try our best to guide them, buy them learning materials but, they have completely lost the morale.

Moderator:

Thank you very much Mr. Alamanzani.

Mr. Samanya you had wanted to tell us something.

Panellist 1:

I wanted to comment about the reverend’s issue. These religious leaders in their different denominations have really helped us on guiding children. We tend to forget about God but, when the children listen to them, they master what they say and even sometimes challenge us.

 

 

 

       Caller 4:

My name is public friend Agrey from Mayuge. Thank you for serving the nation. I would also like to thank the funding organisation that it is really doing a great work. All I want to remind the religious leaders is that they have a big role of praying for this nation and the children because the trend has changed and they are over getting spoilt. 

Moderator:

I would like to send my greetings to Mr. Mulaba Swaliki of Butongole primary school.

Madam Aisha I can see you have a burning issue.

Panellist 3:

On the issue of the parents’ responsibility, I would like to remind the fathers and mothers that the bible says that. a good child belongs to the father and a bad child belongs to the mother. Every great person in the world was groomed by a great mother. However, the fathers sometimes spend most of their time looking for what to eat.

Moderator:

I would also like to remind the mothers that there are some mothers who groom their children without fathers but, try with their efforts to see the children successful. When both parents are there, we expect balanced responsibilities between the father and the mother.

Let’s hear from another caller.

Caller 5:

My name is Richard from Bumwena. I would like to appreciate the lady in the studios because she has spoken and shows that she is very responsible for her children. Sometimes men are reluctant about children.

Moderator:

As we wind up, we are discussing about the roles and responsibilities of a parent in the learning of the children.

Caller 6:

I’m Kalidas Yosef from Buyende district. In our locality, there is a number of women who are reluctant and careless about their children. They tend to forget about their work and assign it to children especially during this COVID 19 period. 

Moderator:

Mr. Samanya, summarise your words as we end this program and also send your greetings to two people.

Panellist 1:

All I want to encourage the parents is to look after these children when we are still alive. This will help them survive in this world especially when we are gone.

Secondly, let’s groom the children in good morals so as to become great people in the future.

Lastly, let’s invest in these children so that they can support us in future.

I send my regards to my mother Kange jane, my father and my head teacher Musoke Joel that thank you for the great work you are doing in Namagonjo primary school. 

Moderator:

Madam Aisha summarise in half a minute.

Panellist 2:

 Thank you very much. For I want to inform my fellow parents that some songs are inspirational to us. For example, the song by Namatovu which says that behind every successful man, there is a strong woman. Let’s support our children now because ignorance is very destructive at its later stages. I greet my entire family members, my lovely husband and my parents who imparted discipline in me. Thank you my head teacher for the wonderful work you are doing.

Moderator:

Mr. Muwereza summarise in a half minute and give us a word of hope.

Panellist 3:

I have my last words from the book of hope, if you have a bible, read proverbs 12 and following.

Matthew 7 and following. In proverbs, it says that whoever hates to be blamed, hates understanding. And Mathew says that we need to look at ourselves before judging others. When we follow these words, we shall have a great nation with great children. I send regards to my wife Nabulumba Lilian and my aunt Namulondo Kekurina, my school team and the head teacher and Mpyata family led by Agrey.

Moderator:

Thank you very much my colleagues in the studios for sparing time to come and share with us ideas at Busoga one FM. We shall always be here with you every Saturday from 12:00noon to 1:00pm. Once again am Balondemu Simon your servant. Greetings to all people of Namasiga and Iganga.

Always remember that the wisdom to improve learning lies within us. 

Thank you! God bless you.